GOOODDDDD MONDAY MORNIN" CALI!!!

I've been up almost 2 hours now.  I have to leave for work in an hour and just too much going on to sleep.  I think I'll take my running clothes with me so I can run home after work to get my exercise in.  There's just so much to do before this move.

I'm going to vent a bit here because my heart is aching and it's my own fault because I let this happen yet again.

I've mentioned before that I took my sister and niece in 13 months ago.  This is the third time I've taken my sister in and she was smart about it this time.  She called and asked my husband, not me, because she knew he knew nothing of her history and he would never say no to them.

You see, every time I've taken my sister in, she's left me high and dry with bills she's accumulated while living with me.  She's stayed with me because of being thrown out by her hubby's after having affairs.  She almost went to jail once for embezzling $10,000 from a company she worked for.  Her mother-in-law at the time bailed her out of it and she then proceeded to leave that husband, never paying his mother back.

She's stolen cash and checks from my mother, me, my cousin and her husband and countless others.  She's turned her back on me countless times when I needed her sisterly support. 

But my hubby said yes and he drove up to Northern California to rescue them.  Now over the past 13 months, they've made our lives so uncomfortable.  We've received no help in any way around the house.  What we asked her to pay in rent was short by about $700 per month in what they actually cost us.  And I told my husband it would end badly.  My sister has been on the "prowl" since she got here trying to find a man to take care of her again.

Well, less than two weeks before rent is due, she informs us she's moving in with the Maintenance Man at our apartment complex.  I'm not even going to go into the terrible things she said to us (this is her pattern).

I'm sorry this is so long, but my heart is hurting.  I have to be honest, it's a relief to have them gone.  Even my son is so happy about having our home back.  But again, she's stabbed me in the back.  I'm terrified she's going to break in while we're all at work and take things or even do something to our car.  I wish I was just being dramatic, but with her, this is a real possibility.

I will never put myself in this position again and now my husband understands why I was so unhappy that he said yes to taking them in.

Again, I'm sorry this is so long.  I just wish I could have a sister, but I can't.  I know I've done nothing wrong, but I'm still hurt.

So vent is done.  Now I need to get ready for work.  

Thank you for listening.

Have a good Monday all.

Hi Janeen,

I am so sorry you have to put up with this. What a difficult situation. I have a parent that reminds me of your sister and I've often wondered how much I'd allow him to interfere in my life. He's a drug addict and recently served 30 days in jail for making a string of bad decisions that led to his incarceration. I can't believe I have a father that was in jail at the age of 65!!!

Get a new lock, a deadbolt for your door. Get window locks. I guess the person she's moving in with has keys. I would call the landlord and make it clear neither of them are to have access to your apartment. Plus legally, landlords have to give tenants at least 24 hour notice before entering an apartment. Hide anything of value or put it in a safety deposit box.

I feel sorry for your sister's child.  I am sure that caused you some sleepless nights too.

Good luck.

MsBlues

Thank you for responding MsBlues.  Harley talked to the managers this morning.

To everyone here.........I was emotional this morning and after a full day's work and running home, I feel much better, so I'd like to apologize for bringing such a personal issue to this forum.  I hope I didn't offend anyone by doing so.

Thanks!

Good morning all!

Another day of not doing much. I did  do some housework yesterday, hubby has been great about doing it but he just doesn't do it my way!

A green house will be so much fun Joy. I love to garden. In the spring I decided to plant tomato's in containers because my Great Danes love to dig up things. As I was pouring the soil into the containers I turned around to see my oldest Dane eating the soil like dog food! My containers were all moved to the front yard where they couldn't get to them, and I had a bumper crop of tomato's all summer long. 

Have a wonderful Monday everyone!

Good morning California,

I want to know who stole my weekend.  It was just Friday and now I'm back at work again.  I'm glad I have a job, but why oh why is the weekend so short.  I would so love a 4 day work week.  That would work perfectly for me.  Of courrse I wouldn't want less money, but I would even work 10 hour days to get 3 days off.  Oh well, pipe dreams I'm sure.

Yesterday was a nothing day, however and I enjoyed every moment of it.  Got up about 7AM and just didn't know why.  Was up for a little bit and then went back to bed and slept until about 10:30.  Boy oh boy did that feel good.  Then got some laundry done and that was about it for the day.  I never even got dressed.  How pathetic is that??? LOL  But I figured I deserved it and so I took it.  It was great.

Well time to get busy here.  My coffee is staring me in the face and work awaits.  Hope everyone has a great day and remember to do something wonderful for yourself.

Stephanie

Oh you guys, my baby fell in the pool this morning when my DH let her out to go to the bathroom.  He was worried because she usually does her thing and is back at the door barking.  He got up to check on her and saw  something white splashing in the pool.  Her little head was just above the water.  She is 14 years old and her sight is getting bad.  She does not usually get near the pool.  It was still dark, we have a motion light that comes on when the dogs go out but my DH said he has noticed that she is starting to get disoriented sometimes.  I love her so much but I know that she is old, I tend to be in big time denial about that. 

It's Monday!!! WAAAA....Mine should be a short one this week since I'll be out of the office twice this week for training YEAH!

Hope everyone has a great day and, make it a great one.

Good Morning Joy and So Cal,

Yes, once again it's Monday.  Dang it.  I have been lurking all last week, but really down in a funk and didn't want to be posting being so negative.  Took me two days to figure out why I hit the bottom of my depression bucket, and I had to call my cousin and tell him Doug and I were not coming to NY because of my damn stupid surgery.  Not like we have been planning this for a year.  I was supposed to be much better by now.  I am just pissed this is taking so long and I don't see a lot of improvement in my walking nor do I find any less numbness in my butt, legs and feet.  This SUCKS.

Joy, I am glad that you are feeling so good.  Nice isn't it?  There is so much in life that we need to enjoy and we need to make sure we enjoy everything that is available to us, and that we do what we want to do in life.

Elizabeth, I know how hard it is when your babies get old.  I had a ****er that was blind and eventually went deaf.  He fell in the pool twice, the first day that we rescued him and then about 2 years later.  He did learn that he needed to change his walking direction and would walk along the bushes.  He was pretty smart about it, and he was around 13 or 14 when we finally lose him to kidney failure.  I think it means someone needs to go out with the baby for awhile and make sure he is ok.  But I so feel for you.

Rhonda and family did the 5k in Hesperia for all of you that have been under a rock all weekend.  Sounded like a great time and good for them all.  Also Michelle finished the race too.

Then there is this, Delores was down here, went to Route 66 and no one down here knew she was so close.  So sorry that we missed her.  I know she had a good time there, it's quite an event, and this is the 2nd year Doug and I missed it.

Gus I am so sorry it's MONDAY!  I hate it too.  I don't get to see Doug very much,  He even managed to get out of the house and work yesterday, and it just stole a morning away from me.  I cherish the time I have with him, even if I do yell and scream at time when he is here, nevertheless, I miss him.  He needs to retire, it's time we enjoy life.  But first, I need to get better!  For those of you that don't know me, I am very independant and to sit here day after day, and do nothing, and have people wait on me, is driving me to the brink of being insane.  I walk around trying to get my feet to work and they just have forgotten how to walk.  What the hell???

Ok there was more people I wanted to comment to, but I get so carried away with other things.  I will catch the rest of you later.  This Sat is the Long Beach, possibly the Seal Beach coffee....there is such a large group they need to move it.  Too bad they couldn't all come up here to Redlands, we got a beautiful outside area, huge area.  We need to do a coffee uphere so those that can't make it down there, can come to one up here, for some support and fun.

Everyone have a wonderful day.  Life is good, the day will be hot but beautiful, keep a smile on your face.

Hugs, Diane 

I agree with you Diane.  It's time for a coffee out here in the IE but I'm thinking the heat will keep it away for just a bit longer.  Then, of course, I have tax class until the end of November on Saturdays, so if we do one before then, it will just have to be on a Sunday.  We should talk and plan something.  It's just been way too long since we've had one of those.  And yes, our Starbucks here in Redlands that we use has a huge outside area with lots of tables and seating and other great shopping in the same center.  How about something around October 11th?  How does that sound to you?  Or do we just wait a bit for a Saturday.  Let me know your thoughts.

As for Route 66, Mike and I decided at the last minute to definitely go. We had been off and on about it all week.  I feel bad that we didn't think of calling Doug to see if he wanted to join us.  There were some mighty pretty cars there.  Well next year the both of you will go and you can cruise around in your gorgeous car. 

OK, lunch is over.  Back to work for me.

Love ya,
Steph

I'm with everyone else............Who stole my freaking weekend????  I go to bed and wake up and it's gone and it's MONDAY again.  Ok, so I did have some fun this weekend. 

Jayden and I saw Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs.  Excellent flick especially in 3D.  We ran a bunch of errands, spent some money.  I tortured the poor kid.  Made him wait through an eyebrow waxing,  a trip to Victoria Secret and the Lotion store.  And purse shopping.  TeeHee.  His payment for getting a good movie!

I did get a nap in on Saturday because I had a monster headache.  I had the headache because THAT MAN I am married to decided he needed my help Saturday Morning at 3:30 AM!  WTF. 

Sunday was a lounge around the house day.  We napped, woke up to go to see GI Joe at 1:30.  Found out the projector was broken.  Poor Jayden was about to break out in tears.  So we went to the video store and rented Witch Mountain (and I got Marley and Me and Twilight).  He was happy.  We took him back to his momma around 6.  On our way home, we had another of our adventures.  We took a bunch of dirt roads back to the highway.  About 20 miles of them!  I love adventures like that!

Anyway, here I am, back at work.  I took the weekend to eliminate my snacking habit.  I have food in my lunch bag and can stretch it out.  No Kirkland Trail Mix for me; no cheetos, no orange soda, no white flour carbs, no GRANOLA cluster (those are soooo good but DEADLY)  I have SF pudding, string cheese, jerkey, taco meat and cheese for lunch and had a yogurt and kashi lean cereal for crunchies. 

I am in the home stretch and determined to hit GOAL!!!!  150 here I come!  Water's in, vitamins are in, walk taken.  Signing up at the gym tonight!  Hot damn, I'm gonna do it!